Life = Expectations?
“Life’s a one way road,
Traveled by two persons,
Hand in hand.
If you ever need a hand,
Just look besides you,
I’ll be there!”
Nice to read such stuff, isn’t it? Such stuff makes you love life even more, such stuff strengthens your desire to live, and to walk down further on the ‘one way road’ called life!
But when your fate is not your friend, when your fate does not stand besides you to lend its hand, do you really find anyone saying or doing such stuff for you? Emotionally thinking, the answer would be yes. But truly speaking, you are destined to tread this one way road all alone, struggle to fulfill your so called ‘dreams’. I may sound pessimistic to most of the readers, but stop! Give it a thought, review your life ‘path’, and then I believe all will agree, this is true.
As I see it, your dreams are just expectations, you have from yourself. Our lives are full of expectations we have from ourselves, we have from others, others have from us….and so on. Difficult to assimilate? Let me explain.
The God almighty (who knows if he exists, but there is some creating force, something that runs the whole universe, who we term as ‘God’) created mankind, having the expectation that they would beautify his world even more, or to state bluntly, He has more intelligent beings to control, and to follow Him in all His diverse forms.
Our parents, people who are the living example of God in front of us, brought us into this world for a myriad of expectations, like “vansh ko aage badhaana” – the eternal motive, “budhape ka sahara banna” – one more of the same squad, “samaaj mein naam uncha karma” so on and so forth.
Well we are not here to just blame others. Why blame others when we fall in the same category. We expect stuff from parents, siblings, friends, teachers, colleagues and so many other people. No wonder why no one complains about these expectations. Who will pass the verdict, as all are guilty of the same crime?
So what makes me write this? Well, for people of my league who have experienced the sweetness of success and have been triumphant for most of their lives, the seldom occurrences of failures change the attitudes of all those who were initially there to generously ‘lend you their hands’.
Philosophers say ‘failure is the stepping stone to success’. Most of us believe and profess the same, but only when we are professing, i.e. when we are the sender, when we lend our hands. Try being on the receiver’s end and follow the same. You’ll surely have someone by your side, no doubt. But the person also expects you to do the same. The good old reason that we EXPECT.
I believe there’s nothing wrong in expecting stuff from ourselves and from others. Its like an eternal law of nature, for which there’s no escape. Even the ‘saadhus’ seeking ‘moksha’ segregate themselves from the ‘worldly pleasures’. Again, they expect!
But these expectations should be accompanied with trust. Never base your trust on someone on his/her history of fulfilling your expectations. Its so easy to condemn a person who doesn’t stand upto your expectations, but so difficult to take it yourself. Instead, you can encourage the person by showing your trust. Its difficult, but not impossible.
In the end, everyone does everything for others (so do they say atleast!), and if no one cares about your achievements or failures, then why slog to achieve anything at all? You cannot live life proving to yourself that you can achieve certain targets successfully. You’ve got to have someone to be with you, to share your smiles and tears.
‘Man is a social animal’ – so often said, so seldom realized. We need to seek assistance from our counterparts, at times physical, but mostly mental. You expect such support from others, and if all you get in return is condemn, you give out the same.
There is a thin line that separates condemn from criticism, and we should always be aware of it. We should make it a point that we do not step the border especially when we are the source. It should be our moral responsibility to step into the receiver’s shoes, before we give out our ‘valuable opinions’.
Talking business, beware when you throw some shit out to the world. You never know when you switch roles, and you got to get the same from the world. Again, Expectations…..!
Traveled by two persons,
Hand in hand.
If you ever need a hand,
Just look besides you,
I’ll be there!”
Nice to read such stuff, isn’t it? Such stuff makes you love life even more, such stuff strengthens your desire to live, and to walk down further on the ‘one way road’ called life!
But when your fate is not your friend, when your fate does not stand besides you to lend its hand, do you really find anyone saying or doing such stuff for you? Emotionally thinking, the answer would be yes. But truly speaking, you are destined to tread this one way road all alone, struggle to fulfill your so called ‘dreams’. I may sound pessimistic to most of the readers, but stop! Give it a thought, review your life ‘path’, and then I believe all will agree, this is true.
As I see it, your dreams are just expectations, you have from yourself. Our lives are full of expectations we have from ourselves, we have from others, others have from us….and so on. Difficult to assimilate? Let me explain.
The God almighty (who knows if he exists, but there is some creating force, something that runs the whole universe, who we term as ‘God’) created mankind, having the expectation that they would beautify his world even more, or to state bluntly, He has more intelligent beings to control, and to follow Him in all His diverse forms.
Our parents, people who are the living example of God in front of us, brought us into this world for a myriad of expectations, like “vansh ko aage badhaana” – the eternal motive, “budhape ka sahara banna” – one more of the same squad, “samaaj mein naam uncha karma” so on and so forth.
Well we are not here to just blame others. Why blame others when we fall in the same category. We expect stuff from parents, siblings, friends, teachers, colleagues and so many other people. No wonder why no one complains about these expectations. Who will pass the verdict, as all are guilty of the same crime?
So what makes me write this? Well, for people of my league who have experienced the sweetness of success and have been triumphant for most of their lives, the seldom occurrences of failures change the attitudes of all those who were initially there to generously ‘lend you their hands’.
Philosophers say ‘failure is the stepping stone to success’. Most of us believe and profess the same, but only when we are professing, i.e. when we are the sender, when we lend our hands. Try being on the receiver’s end and follow the same. You’ll surely have someone by your side, no doubt. But the person also expects you to do the same. The good old reason that we EXPECT.
I believe there’s nothing wrong in expecting stuff from ourselves and from others. Its like an eternal law of nature, for which there’s no escape. Even the ‘saadhus’ seeking ‘moksha’ segregate themselves from the ‘worldly pleasures’. Again, they expect!
But these expectations should be accompanied with trust. Never base your trust on someone on his/her history of fulfilling your expectations. Its so easy to condemn a person who doesn’t stand upto your expectations, but so difficult to take it yourself. Instead, you can encourage the person by showing your trust. Its difficult, but not impossible.
In the end, everyone does everything for others (so do they say atleast!), and if no one cares about your achievements or failures, then why slog to achieve anything at all? You cannot live life proving to yourself that you can achieve certain targets successfully. You’ve got to have someone to be with you, to share your smiles and tears.
‘Man is a social animal’ – so often said, so seldom realized. We need to seek assistance from our counterparts, at times physical, but mostly mental. You expect such support from others, and if all you get in return is condemn, you give out the same.
There is a thin line that separates condemn from criticism, and we should always be aware of it. We should make it a point that we do not step the border especially when we are the source. It should be our moral responsibility to step into the receiver’s shoes, before we give out our ‘valuable opinions’.
Talking business, beware when you throw some shit out to the world. You never know when you switch roles, and you got to get the same from the world. Again, Expectations…..!
posted by sailee at 10:17 AM
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